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Said/She Said
By Romeo and Juliet of mohabbat.com
You're
here and your boopie is waaay over there. So how do you keep a long
distance relationship going? Not to mention that they're starting
to act a damn fool. Read what our Lailla
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Hi friends,
My name
is Sumit. I am 20 years old. My love is next to my neighbour.Her
name is Reena.1n 1998 she shifted to our neighour after two days
i saw her i decided she might be my life partner one day i went
to her home to meet her mother (her mother and my mother are like
good friends) there i gave her my first friendship band to any girl
in my life and said i like u very much and i want to do friendship
with u.
She accepted in back of her mother there we start to meet, almost
daily at the corner of our street sometimes at her home when her
family members were not there. One day i decided to make up my mind
on that day it was my b'day (1st june) she came to my house and
said happy b'day to me.I ask her to meet me in evening that i want
to talk something serious. We met at her home i said her that i
love her and i cannot live without her.She smiled at me and said
she also want to said samething to me . I was really happy and that
day i never forget in my whole life.
Now we both love each other.Her big brother knew about us and he
don't want to have any relations between us, he also told reena
not to meet me and not to talk at any condition. But we both can't
live without each other we meet daily at different places without
informing our parents. We love each other but her big brother is
not agreed. Any friend please help me out that her big brother agree.
We want to marry but her parents were not satisfied with us.
Troubled,
Sumit
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Mohabbat
Team:-
Dear Troubled,
Hi
Sumit,
Your
are lucky that you have your love with you. Since she is your neighbour
everyone knows you well, hence there should be some problem in their
not accepting you. So find out what are those problems and try and
overcome those short comings. Infact you are lucky that they are your
neighbours and it is easy for you to find these things. The best for
you would be to cool down on your meetings and become paly with the
family and let them realise how good you are and let your good qualities
be seen by them. Specially the elder brother.
Keep Loving
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I
am in love with a man who's 12 years younger than me. I was reluctant
to get involved with him but he came on to me. This is the problem:
Generally, he respects me but is very inconsistent about our relationship.
He only calls me in response to my calls.
There are some complications. We live two hours away from each other
and we both work very long hours and don't see each other often. Despite
this, he expects me to be available at the drop of a hat.
I refuse to sit around waiting for him to call or drop by unannounced.
We recently broke up because of these reasons but I miss him. What
should I do? I don't want him to think he can play me.
Sincerely,
Troubled |
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Romeo
Responds:-
Dear Troubled,
I
can very much understand your plight, but as the saying goes Love
is Blind. Love happens on its own even if you are reluctant if it
has to happen it will happen. I think you need to sit with your friend
and clarify because as you say he respects you and is also inconsistent
about your relationship. It seems that he is not as much concerned
as you are and maybe not in love but just a physical attraction. Staying
away is not at all a problem as today there are various ways of communicating.
Infact you
could be in touch with each other so constant as if you were staying
together. (Instant messenger services, chatting, telephone, email).
He is calling you when he needs you and is not bothered about your
thoughts and needs, hence give a deep thought to it that does he really
loves you. Even after he broke up with you is really bothered why
all this happened.
Since you have
already broken up either you should sit tight and wait for him to
call and when he does you should talk with him about all this and
if you want you could send me him a mail or a card mentioning how
you miss him but …… My advice to you would be that have a very frank
talk with him as he must not be in love with you as you are with him.
You could be quite good friends if this issue would be clarified.
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Juliet
Responds:-
Hi,
After
reading to your problem - it seems that he (boy) fell in love with
you, so wanted to go out for a relationship with you, but due to age
gap or difference initially u were quite reluctant to go into a relationship
with him. But certain circumstances made you (girl) fall in love with
him(boy). As said by you (girl) you both are working (Even this can
be a matter of worry) - Due to work load you both can't meet each
other. So he started avoiding calling you.
As you people are less exposed to each other, u people are not getting
exposed to express ur feelings towards each other, which is creating
sourness in ur relationship. I would suggest u both to go on weekends
to a far off place were no work or any sort of tension will affect
you both. And the reasons for that he want you at any moment of time
may be, because when he is free you are not free & when you are free
he is not free. But due to youur understanding nature you always adjust
your schedule when he wants you, but when you must be calling he (even
if he will's ) he must be facing problems to come out to meet you.
So
don't take it to your heart. Working lovers always have to face this
problems. But by refusing to or keeping grudge against him will not
work to keep up your relationship. Even if you have broke up you there
are still chances to get back try to call him out as said before (week
ends) and talk it out. He is not playing with you but can't help it
due to his busy work schedule. Do understand dear...... |
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boyfriend and I are in our late 20s have been dating for two years.
We haven't discussed marriage, although I think it's on both of our
minds. How can I broach the subject without pressuring him? |
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Romeo
Responds:-
Hello Ms. To Mrs.
This is a very interesting transition as it comes in the lives of
many couples who have started their love life. There are quite a few
ways to convey what you want to depending upon the nature of your
boyfriend.
(a) Be frank and clarify in the beginning only that you are
not in any hurry but what are his views on marriage.
( b) Ask him what is the right age to become a father in today's
world?
The first option is heart to heart and the second
will be enough to raise the topic for both of you to go in a discussion
and then take a decision jointly. Incase you are not successful with
the above two then please do let me know at webmaster@mohabbat.com
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Juliet
Responds:-
Hi,
If you are emotionally
not secure, then just start it by just talking about friends who are
married (known to both) and then ask him (in a way of proposing) will
you marry me (Jokingly) and see the answer is right in front of you
without any tension slowly then you can start telling him how much
interested you are in marrying him. This also may create a sense of
emotional security for both. Try it. |
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